Hey Mat good to see you here too. Ruth's Chris is really nice and we've been to Flemming's too but we won't be back either, its atmosphere and service just didn't cut it when paying that much. The wife & I have settled on Donovan's in La Jolla as our all-time #1 favorite $$$$ restaurant. Ambiance is nicer, I think, and the waitstaff is incredible. Table #13 is great with a nice Remington statue of Coming Through the Rye over the booth. Table #9 is nice too and is in a bit quieter area further away from the front. Wherever you sit, if you end up there, ask to be seated in Victor's area who is our favorite waiter. He REALLY knows how to take care of his customers, he'll make you think you're his #1 favorite couple of the night. Hopefully table 9 or 13 will be in his area the night you are there.
One more suggestion besides their bone-in Ribeye... be sure to have a "Beam Me Up Scotty" after dinner drink before you leave your table. It has a little caffeine kicker in it to pick you up after a great meal.
Whever you go with your wife Mat, congrats on your Anniversary!