Originally Posted by addymiller
ok, guys--share the secret. how did you do that--tell me that and i will be eternally grateful. keeps coming back and biting me in the arse.
i banish it--move on --and have to stop and deal with it again.
cannot move away from it--can sort move around it.
wasting time, wasting too much time.
'never think of that 's' again'--i would love to do that---how i would love to do that. 'my family, my community'---some pretty bad things went down and still go down.
the holidays are 'very special'--the 's' flies. no joy or happiness. just the 's'--that is how it goes.
disgusted---depressed and absolutely furious. silent killer --blood pressure--i think it is going to get me very soon. and that will be a relief. it really will.
'nice girl'---that is what happens to some of us---for no reason that is acceptable to me.
I'm decisive. I contemplate my move from every angle before making it and then live with the consequences. I can do this quickly so I don't have to spend to much time on any one thing. If I do I drop it and go back to it later. Having a fresh start on things can help.
I also don't regret anything. I learn and do not repeat, or if I do I make sure the reward is worth it. Like arguing with the misses, you have to pick your battles, sometimes it's just easier to let her do ____ .
Regret :1. To feel sorry, disappointed, or distressed about.
I've been sorry, I've been disappointed, but the distressed part is all me. I choose that path. I choose to dwell on it or not, knowing my choices I make the right one for me. I am not distressed by my decisions.
Banishing it and forcing a resolution is not the same thing. Banishment means the problem exist, just else where. My problems are wholly with me or not a problem at all.
I'm able to do all this by knowing what I do not know and utilizing the tools around me to accomplish my goals.